Thursday, March 6, 2008

HEAR ME!

This was sent to me on my friendster by a friend of a couple of months ago. It's a letter of parents to their child Written by Rev. Fr. Ariel F. Robles,CWL Spiritual Director,St. Augustine Parish, Baliuag, Bulacan". I was really touched by this one.


Sulat ni Tatay at Nanay


Sa aking pagtanda, unawain mo sana ako at pagpasensiyahan. Kapag dala ng kalabuan ng mata ay nakabasag ako ng pinggan o nakatapon ng sabaw sa hapag-kainan, huwag mo sana akong kagagalitan. Maramdamin ang isang matanda. Nagse-self-pity ako tuwing sisigawan mo ako.

Kapag mahina na ang tenga ko at hindi ko maintindihan ang sinasabi mo, huwag mo naman sana akong sabihan ng bingi, pakiulit na lang ang sinabi mo o pakisulat na lang. Pasensya ka na, anak. Matanda na talaga ako.

Kapag mahina na ang tuhod ko, pagtiyagaan mo sana akong tulungang tumayo, katulad ng pag-aalalay ko sa iyo noong nag-aaral ka pa lamang lumakad.

Pagpasensyahan mo sana ako kung ako man ay nagiging makulit at paulit-ulit na parang sirang-plaka. Basta pakinggan mo na lang ako. Huwag mo sana akong pagtatawanan o pagsasawaang pakinggan. Natatandaan mo anak noong bata ka pa? Kapag gusto mo ng lobo, paulit-ulit mo 'yung sasabihin, maghapon kang mangungulit hanggang hindi mo nakukuha ang gusto mo. Pinagtiyagaan ko ang kakulitan mo.

Pagpasensiyahan mo na rin sana ang aking amoy. Amoy-matanda, amoy-lupa. Huwag mo sana akong piliting maligo. Mahina na ang katawan ko. Madaling magkasakit kapag nalamigan, huwag mo sana akong pandirihan. Natatandaan mo noong bata ka pa? Pinagtiyagaan kitang habulin sa ilalim ng kama kapag ayaw mong maligo.

Pagpasensiyahan mo sana kung madalas, ako'y masungit, dala na marahil ito ng katandaan. Pagtanda mo, maiintindihan mo rin ako.

Kapag may konti kang panahon, magkuwentuhan naman tayo, kahit sandali lang, inip na ako sa bahay, maghapong nag-iisa. Walang kausap. Alam kong busy ka sa trabaho,

Subalit nais kong malaman mo na sabik na sabik na akong makakuwentuhan ka, kahit alam kong hindi ka interesado sa mga kuwento ko. Natatandaan mo anak, noong bata ka pa? Pinagtiyagaan kong pakinggan at intindihin ang pautal-utal mong kuwento tungkol sa iyong teddy bear.

At kapag dumating ang sandali na ako'y magkasakit at maratay sa banig ng karamdaman, huwag mo sana akong pagsawaang alagaan. Pagpasensiyahan mo na sana kung ako man ay maihi o madumi sa higaan, pagtiyagaan mo sana akong alagaan sa mga huling sandali ng aking buhay. Tutal hindi na naman ako magtatagal.

Kapag dumating ang sandali ng aking pagpanaw, hawakan mo sana ang aking kamay at bigyan mo ako ng lakas ng loob na harapin ang kamatayan.

At huwag kang mag-alala, kapag kaharap ko na ang Diyos na lumikha, ibubulong ko sa kanya na pagpalain ka sana . .. dahil naging mapagmahal ka sa iyong ama't ina. ..




Yesterday while walking on the side walk I saw an old man sitting in front of the gate of the cathedral. He has no slippers with dirty clothes...and he could not see anything. He's blind! He has disposable glass beside him where people who are passing by can put coins or anything they have to offer for the poor old man. When I passed by, I gave him a five peso coin(the only thing I can give him that time). I couldn't take to look at him in that kind of situation so after giving him the coin I walked fast away from him. Then I remember the letter above sent to me by a friend. I wonder where could be his family or children or relatives...or meron ba siya kahit isa? cguro naman meron noh. How can they do that to their own parent? whew...

I(also) really am disappointed with the kind of government we have here in the Philippines. They are supposed to make moves to solve this issues. The problem is they just only make action only if the media exposed it on TV or radio or when someone who has this so called "say" in the society would come to them and told them to do so...but of course i don't say that the government is really that bad.. NO! I still believe that there are still pure-hearted public servants--however, there are only few of them.Just telling that there are people in the government who will just do their duties and functions if they are told to do so.

The man i saw yesterday was not the only old man who suffers from that kind of situation. There are so many of them---if you just try look around. I had this thought, actually, that maybe their children chose to abandon them because they had done something not good in the past-- we just don't know...but can't we forgive and just forget everything that had happened and live the present with no heavy hearts to carry..?? Yah, it's hard to do but can't we try? They are old now and I know they regret what they had done and didn't in the past... If you are the child and your parents give you everything, value and treasure it. It's true that it is their responsibility and your right to have a good life but i guess it is your responsibility too to pay them back the things they have done for you(I'm not talkin material things in here).. Take care of your parents and show them the love that they had given yor when you are still little. Because that's the only THING a parent could ask for his/her child.

[Watch XXX or The Correspondents or any documentary shows to widen your knowledge and awareness with what is happening around you.]
*sigh*

7 comments:

I Love Philippines! said...

Hi Weng! Now I am sure na ikaw si Weng or Ella or kung balikratin, Alle! hahahaha! Ganun ba yun?

ANyway, I don't like the way the letter was phrased. It is true that the children must get back to the parents and take care of them. The more so if the parents have did their best for their children (that excludes me then)....

The letter, or the article is in a way "NANININGIL". I don't believe it is a "debt" of a certain child. It is neither a responsibilty but it is the thing we can call "LOVE" and "AFFECTION". You take what you gave. If the parents have invested on thses stuffs, I don't think they have difficulties with their children later on. What becomes of a child is 95% result of the way they are weared by parents.. If they come out good, that reflects back to the parents. Then, when the parents are old, with invested love, trust and affection, the parent or parents need not worry.

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tina said...

hi Weng.. I get sad whenever I see old people sa streets as well. usahay gusto nako muhilak.. to see the harsh, grim realities of life.

and, frankly.. about government? i don't think they can do anything at all for the people in the Philippines. They are too busy MINDING THEIR OWN PERSONAL AGENDAS. and when everyhing's personal? nakakalimutan na ang lahat...

and so what do I do? I help people in my own little way.. not financially, but i try to make them realize their REAL values and culture sa Pinoy nga maayo. I change my views... my outlook.. kasi I can't change other people's views. only mine... mao na akong nasabtan sa 20 years nako diri sa kalibutan..

and if we want something to change... we do it ourselves. ngano man diay kung kita ra? hehe. at least di ba? nag effort ta.. and all efforts pay off. and.. if we don't want old people lying on the streets.. let us not do that to our own parents.. that's something already. :)

take care always weng!

aL|e said...

thanks for the comment guys.. ang hahaba ah.. hehehe... :)

Ilovephilippines:
actually, i tried to make my name a secret kaya binaligtad ko yong name
pero naisip ko 'for what?' kaya inopen ko na lang...:) anways, mas gusto ko gnatawag nga WENG.. hehehe

about your comment on the letter, i agree with what you said that the article is parang "NANININGIL" but i guess the author intended to write it that way for those children who abandoned their parents at 'yong mga anak na hindi na pinapansin or binibigyang importansya 'yong mga magulang because of their environment, works and others... malaki kasi ang impact ng environment sa tao kahit pa sabihing they were brought up with LOVE and AFFECTION by their parents... Maybe the author just want us to look back(reflect) and realize the hardship of our parents who brought us well into this world for us to treat them well in their old age... nagaiba na abi ang mga kabataan subong eh, tuod2 lang gid.. cgro dala na sang modernization nga gnatawag...ewan lang natin...

hmmm... nabasa ko gali 2ng recent post mo... hehehe... hindi naman ako magaling makipag-argue eh... hehehe.. medyo tawhay na gid man pro may ara pa ko exams this week... i'll post it tom na lang ah... :)


tina:

tama ka... if we want to change something, we should start it from ourselves...


"if we don't want old people lying on the streets.. let us not do that to our own parents.. that's something already." <=== i love this one... :)

au2 pod.. :)

I Love Philippines! said...

Is is undeniable that their are lots of children treating their old so bad but it all goes back to the treatment of the child and how that child was raised. Anyway, there are lots of factors but if parents have properly explained to ther children those things when they were still young, i don't think there would be lots of problems then. Like the media nad tv, it is still with the control of parents if they know how. The environment is indeed influencial but the parents, if have planted great values to their child, the child would know it.

The reality is, parents become parent in our country without thinking the responsibilities that go with parenthood. Thus, if they know nothing, how can they educate and give values to their children if they themselves don't have it? Everything has a payment, you harvest what you sow ika nga...

twinkletoe said...

Hello al|e :]
After reading this letter namiss ko tuloy parents ko. It is disheartening every time nakakakita ako ng mga oldies in the street lalo na if they were abandoned by their families.
My parents told me before na kaya nila kami pinalaki because its their responsibilities as parents at di dahil they want to invest. I know my parents are not expecting anything or something in return from us as "payment" pero nasa iyo na yon as a person di ba.
When it comes to my parents am always there.
But yon nga lang di lahat ng tao pareho ang outlook sa buhay. :]
ingat!

Oi uuwi pala ako pinas.. so baka di ako mgkapag blog hop masyado ha.. :]

aL|e said...

to ilovephilippines:
i really appreciate and respect your comments and opinions contradictory man o hindi sa post ko...

i believe kasi na kahit napalaki nng maayos ng parents yong anak still nasa anak parin yon kung papaanu nya ititreat back yong parents nya... the teachings of the parents really have great impacts with their children but it really depends on the children sometimes on how they are going to apply it...

what i have understood in the letter is that...halimbawa pagod tayo and kinda badtrip at the office or school tas tatanungin tayo ng parents natin... "kumusta anak?" sometimes, inis tayo dala ng trabaho eh "iniisnob" minsan nga yong iba "nabubulyawan" pa natin yong parents natin---ofcorz i don't do that to my parents ha--... parang the letter is just reminding us na hindi dapat ganun kasi psychologically pagtumatanda na yong tao, maramdamin talaga... they easily get hurt... 'yon ang pagkakaintindi ko.. :)


btw, i want to read your article "why the philippines is poor" in the class and share it to my classmates sana before the sy ends, okay lang ba? i really love that article eh... i'll tell them na gawa iyon ng friend ko...^_^
-hugz-



@ twinks:
thank you for the comments.. hehehe
it's the parents responsibility naman talaga na palakihin tayo nang maayos eh w/o anything in return... :)

yah, people have different outlooks/perceptions in life...:)

ingatz ha.. and God bless!

I Love Philippines! said...

Hi Weng! Yes, but maybe i have just this idea that parents have big responsibility... I see it kasi here in Europe...really to be a parent is not a joke here, unlike in Philippines, that if the parents are poor, its a bit of excuse.

Share any post of mine. I will be really very happy to share all my opinions! Blush blush blush! Flattered ako!